Starting my website and bringing back my business again has been a major breakthrough for me. This is like a dream come true. I never would have imagined that I would be this bold to take the steps I have taken in the last 3 months. I was stressed, afraid, and clueless most times but here we are. Most importantly, I thank God for great friends and families for the push.
God has not given us the spirit of fear…2Timothy 1:7! This passage from the bible is what most of us tell ourselves every time. If you are like me, you would find yourself repeating this each time you are about to start something. You would agree with me that it’s easy to recite these words but believing it is the most difficult, at least in my case. We put a lot of false expectations on ourselves. Our mind create a false expectations about what people think or should think about us. We put so much unrealistic expectations on how those around us should feel or act towards us.
For the first time, I conquered, Fear and I decide not to worry about what would happen tomorrow.
I want to address 3 common f.e.a.r that hinders us…
YOU
Most times, we are our own worst enemy. Even when people are out there cheering us on, we still think that we are incapable. I got certified as a personal trainer in 2013 and trained for couple of years until I let it go because of fear of failing. I looked at myself and would compare myself to the societal definition of a trainer. Even though some people see me as “FIT”(that’s a topic for another day), I see myself as “unfit” because I always look at what the society defines as “FIT” and I was no where near it. Just the fear of being judged, not fitting in, and the struggles of wanting to fit in made me loose passion for training.
FRIENDS
The fear of sharing our plans with our friends is also common. We often get scared that our friends would think that we don’t have enough skill set. We are afraid that they may not patronize, like our posts, or pictures etc, but what these does is that it limits us and delay us from being the person that we are meant to be. When I started training, I had some friends that supported and I had some that just didn’t care. This did not mean they are not my friends but we have to realize that we need to look beyond friends when we are aiming for success. Your friends might not be able to climb your success ladder with you. Some friends might hold the ladder for you while you climb, some might stand by the ladder while hoping that you fall, and some might be waiting at end of the ladder when you get there to cheer you on.
IMMEDIATE FAMILY
You would think that our immediate family should be our number one supporter, therefore we shouldn’t fear their expectations of us, well we do. The family member I’m addressing could be daddy, mommy, spouse, children. Because these people have such a high expectations of us, we always fear of failing or dissapointing them. We put our plans on hold because we are not sure how supportive of us they would be. We always use their affirmations as our driving force. The problem with this is that, we would never get to the place of growth or be successful if we wait for someone to give us kudos each time we do good.
I am writing this from a place of passion so that you could see that these false expectations do nothing but hinder us. A lot of us have very great ideas, we are passionate about something but we allowed minds, friends and families to hinder us. Go out today, breaking every barriers, confront that fear, ignore the naysayers and do what you gotta do, because ‘…tomorrow would worry about itself..” Matt 6:34.
Hope to hear from you.
Xoxo Forlahkeh.
23 Responses
I just love you!!! You have been my number one fan and cheerleader since 2013. I am so proud of you and I know that Stayfit will be successful.
As being one of your first trainees, failure never crossed my mind. I knew that you were passionate and committed about the health and success of others.
You will S.U.C.C.E.E.D!!!!
Awww..Thank you so much. I love and appreciate you always.
I am super proud of you my dear wife. I admire your determination and hardwork, you are indeed a virtuous woman and a great example for many to follow. I am happy to see your passing and gift coming to life. keep doing what you do and never give up, keep changing lives one at a time…
Thank you so much for your support all along. You and the kids made this possible. Thank you
You are what “EXTRAORDINARY LOOKS LIKE!!!”
Excited for your new journey
Margo
Thank you so much for this
I totally agree with what you said. Fear has a way of paralyzing us from achieving our dreams. We have to practice having faith over fear in every area of our lives. I am excited for you and Happy to be a part of this.
Yes ma’am. Thank you so much for this
Success is yours all the way🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this
You don PREACH!!! Super proud sis. I look forward to more articles. You are really passionate about fitness and its time you share it with the world. Love ya 😘😘😘
Thank you so much for this. I love you right back.
To say I am super proud of you sis is an understatement. You continue to inspire me. Thank you for braving and ‘faithing’ through fear to go for your passion. I love to see women go for it and you are a true example of not using excuses (valid as they might be) to stop yourself. Continue to flourish and I will hopefully join you before the end of the year. More blessings on this journey. Stay focused and I know NOTHING is impossible with God on your side. Love you!!
Thank you so much for this.
I love you right back
Congratulations For-lar-keh, though I am not a passionate workout person but your testimony drives me to pursue my passion. You are such an inspiration. God bless you more
Thank you so much for this.
You’re an inspiration to us all Aunty!!! God bless you, keep shinning!! ❤️🙌🏾💪🏾
Thank you so much. I appreciate you
You got this sis. Forward ever, backward never. So proud of you.
Thank you so much sis. I appreciate it.
Yayyy, congrats sis! I am so happy for you. Success all the way. Getting-fit and staying-fit has always been your passion ever since I known you. Keep doing what you do best, changing individuals and family life at a time. Watch out Dallas/Ft Worth, surrounding Metroplex and Out of Town families, Forlakeh is coming to your home. Greater heights sis and God bless! Love U!
Thank you so much. I appreciate you. I love you too.